It’s never easy to admit you have made a mistake, but it’s very crucial step in learning, growing and improving yourself
One of the best ways to relieve stress is to learn from your mistakes. But how can you learn from your mistakes if you don’t realise when you’ve made one? There are some strategies you can use to identify your mistakes; that will work in various situations most of the time. Consider the following:
Re-frame your mistakes
First, use re-framing to stop thinking of your mistakes as failures. They can be more accurately described as opportunities for learning people generally learn more from mistakes then they learn from their successes. With each mistake, you can learn valuable information that can be of used for future success.
Next, maintain perspective and son’t take mistakes too seriously. Blaming others for our mistakes can be a defence mechanism for those who are harsh with ourselves when we mess-up we stay in denial because we can’t take our own harsh self-condemnation. Be forgiving. just changing your outlook on this can make it less threatening to recognise when you are responsible for things going other than you had planned. And that makes you more able to learn from your mistakes.
What you can change
Rather than thinking of who is more responsible for a situation, look at the situation as a whole in terms of what you can change. If you view taking responsibility through the lens of personal control,what can you change next time? Makes it an empowering experience to learn from your mistakes.
Look at other sides of the same situation. How do different people in the situation feel. How might things have gone differently if you’d made different choices? Look at the situation in different ways. Play with it. And see what you can learn for next time.
Ask for impartial opinions. Have a few trusted friends who will tell you the truth and who can see things from both sides and ask them what they see. Sometimes we’re too close to a situation to make sense of it at first, but an observer can deliver their opinion with a closer view of reality.
Congratulate yourself for whatever growth you’ve gained from dealing with each difficult situation you encounter and each lesson you learn from your own mistake.
- Accepting responsibility makes learning possibble.
- You can’t change mistakes, but you can choose how to respond to them.
- Growth starts when you can see room for improvement.
- Work to understand why it happened.
- What small mistakes, in sequence, contributed to the bigger mistake?
- Are there alternatives you should have considered but did not? Think about it